"It never hurts to ask."

As much as I would love the believe the saying "it never hurts to ask" is a reality, I just can't. It's not possible, to be very honest, that saying really shouldn't be so popular.

Like, what about those people who are afraid of rejection (like all of who are human)?

"Hi Heather..."

"Oh hey Jake, what's about?"

"Well...I was just wondering...do you want out to the movies with me sometime?"

"I'm sorry, I'm just not interested in you, good luck finding someone though!"

***Earlier on that day***

"Hey Jake! Are you going to ask Heather out?"

"I don't know Mark, should I?"

"It never hurts to ask, you know what I mean?"

"You're right, I'll ask her out at lunch."

"Good luck!"

Okay, so like no one talks like that in real life, or maybe you do? I have no idea, the point being, getting rejected hurts. And to get rejected, you have to ask. So it hurts to ask, in that sense.

I'm sure that there are some instants where asking doesn't hurt, like when asking for a later curfew or a raise in your job. But there is always a variable, to make a possible not hurting situation painful.

If you ask your parents to let you have a later curfew, some (like mine) will take it as you questioning their authority, and get quite pissed off. I mean, I don't have a set curfew, and that doesn't mean that I can stay out until 2 am doing stuff. Basically if I ever get invited to a party I get picked up at whatever time my parents feel like it. Half the time I don't even get to stay to the end because my Dad doesn't feel like driving me. Anyway, asking for a later curfew can hurt, because if your guardians take it the wrong way, they'll make your curfew even earlier. I bet a you're thinking:

"Shut up you crazy bitch, you're wrong, you're just trying to prove your point by lying."

Well, you obviously haven't lived in a house were you get things taken away if you ask for more. So you can shut the fuck up grab a brain. Thank you.

Another example where that are variables, is asking for a raise at your job. It's pretty much the same as the curfew idea, whoever is in charge get's mad because you're asking for more (how greedy of you!) and fires you. Personally, I would only ask for a raise if I needed more money, and if I got fired instead, that would hurt.

Let's ask something that may or may not hurt you: Why are you writing about this topic? Because it has occurred to me, that whenever I say that my parents refuse to call the dentist and get my tooth fixed, the person I'm talking to says something like:

"Just ask, it never hurts to ask."

And I realized I was hurting myself by asking, because the more I asked the angrier my Dad has gotten (because I'm annoying and he can't do anything about it anyway). And the angrier he gets, the less likely he will be to get me help.

This was triggered because I told my Mom that I just wanted this tooth (root canal from a deepened cavity, left untreated for 2 years) out of my mouth so that I don't die of a mouth infection. Well on the drive home my Dad was complaining because he has to fix the brakes on the car and how much money that's going to cost. So my health is second to the cars because I don't bring people place.

I should probably start making my will now.

(I also just got asked for 31 dollars, right as I was writing this.)